Don’t believe the psychologists who tell you that narcissism is a personality disorder. Of course they want you to think that because they are trained to train you to become one of the workforce, the work horses of society. With this covert duty they can not allow you to believe that you are far more than your occupation and capable of achieving more than you are dictated to achieve.
For some, the epitome of success is the highest level of education or a solid marriage that spans decades. It could be walking into your corner office of a high-rise building and seeing your name on the board of trustees. There are also those who want to drive the biggest, most flashy car in existence and wear the most expensive shoes on the market as a symbol of their success.
Then there are those who believe that those things are a drop in the bucket compared to what they could accomplish in this world. They see far beyond owning a home or keeping a job for 20 years. They believe that they were placed on earth to change things and they step out to make their attempt, often failing and flailing along the way.
When you analyze these wanna-be world changers, they often have similar personality qualities, qualities that when studied resemble the typical narcissist according to psychologists.
Traits of Narcissists
- Believing that you’re better than others
- Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness
- Exaggerating your achievements or talents
- Expecting constant praise and admiration
- Believing that you’re special and acting accordingly
- Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings
- Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
- Taking advantage of others
- Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
- Being jealous of others
- Believing that others are jealous of you
- Trouble keeping healthy relationships
- Setting unrealistic goals
- Being easily hurt and rejected
- Having a fragile self-esteem
- Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional
When you examine each of these traits you should wonder why believing in yourself and seeing beyond the most typical goals and life achievements is a bad thing. According to the Mayo Clinic which listed out these Narcissistic Personality Disorder symptoms, people who value themselves and have high self confidence don’t value themselves more than others.
If you are a narcissist you may believe that you were born to do something awesome in this world. You are often ridiculed and sabotaged when you try to achieve your dreams and you wonder why others don’t understand your place in this world. Conversations with the average person are futile and most often disheartening because while they simply want someone to notice them and ask them to join their team, you desire to create the team. While most people wait to be chosen, you know you should be the one doing the choosing. While everyone around you are easily engaging in relationships, you are not as easily matched because you are above average. Yes, there are millions of average people available to be matched with other average people, but the extra ordinary people don’t find this match so easily.
You have a purpose here. You are the representation of the power of the goddesses here on earth. You are the reason why there are advances in technology. You are the reason why new social norms are created. You are the force behind new trends, new cultural developments and the entire progress of our race. If you, my narcissistic one, did not exist our society would be a revolving door of antiquated ideas and practices that do not propel our race forward.
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Do not believe for one second that something is wrong with you simply because you are narcissistic. Who is going to care more about you than you will? Who will believe in your more than you can? Who can push you further than you can?
You ARE the most important person in this world. Your survival is important. Your ideas, even the most impossible ones, are important. You can achieve what you set out to if you do not allow those who desire to reduce you to their idea of normalcy to brainwash you into accepting their idea of success.
We can’t force you to dream dreams that benefit the entire world. We can’t make you desire world peace or better healthcare or equality for all of humankind but we can hope that among the best of you narcissists, there will be one or two who will understand that not everyone is created equally and we do need leaders who feel it is in their best interest to care for those who can not care for themselves.
Step into your greatness. Decide that you will shine. Give yourself permission to dream the dream of world domination in your field and protect your biggest investment, yourself, at all costs. Do this for the preservation of your dream, of your bloodline and to honor the gift of vision you have been given. Don’t allow the naysayers to convince you that you are crazy. You’re not. You have the ultimate power to shape this world into what you want. They are afraid of your power and your belief in yourself. They lack that kind of belief. Someone told them they were limited and they believed them. You don’t have to.
For some, narcissism is simply a mind game, an imaginary status they bestow upon themselves that has absolutely no evidence in the physical world. And even THAT is okay if it makes you feel better about your life and pushes you toward attempting to create the life you want. For others, those select few who are gifted with the mentality of believing they have the power and courage to change their lives and the lives of others on a massive scale, they take action and their lives are a living record of their will power.
They started in infancy with organizing play time on the playground. They moved on to starting a small scale business in their younger years. They embraced a lifestyle choice that most did not agree with yet they boldly moved forward with no guidance or permission and figured out this lifestyle and made it their own. They fought the system and won. They battled the system and lost. They tried and failed at love and life but they gave it everything in them while they were doing it. No matter what the outcome of their attempts, they never for one moment stopped believing that they were made of the fabric of greatness.
They didn’t simply believe, they understood who they were and why they were created from a very young age. It is the knowing coupled with action that sets apart the mental narcissists from the all powerful creators who use their powers to bring their visions into this physical world.
Don’t stop moving. Don’t shrink back. Set your goal so high that it frightens you. Risk so much that you would be devastated if you lost. Remember those who weren’t born like you, be mindful of their fears and insecurities and be gentle with them when they try to convince you that you can’t achieve your dreams. Be kind to them as you ascend and remember that the greatest leaders don’t push or crush, they pull.