What is going on with the women in this world? We now become offended when a man says something nice to us? There are worse words than being called Baby, Sexy or Sweetie, honey.
When I saw the link for a Tee Shirt that reads: Sexy & Baby & Cutie & Honey & Sweetie Is Not My Name I couldn’t help but be offended on behalf of all men. When did we turn into a society of women who don’t appreciate nice things. A man calling us bitches or hoes is something to be offended by, the word Sweetie is not.
Let it go. Let down your guard. Not every man is out to hurt you. Notevery man is trying do diminish your shine. Why would you be offended by a term of endearment even if the person who says it is not endearing to you. I promise you, when a man uses a word like that he is trying to make you smile.
Why are you offended by this? Why does a man asking you to smile hurt your feelings? He’s asking you to smile because he’s trying to start a conversation with you and break the ice and you frown at him and walk away offended as though he deserves that treatment for striking up a conversation with you.
Get over yourself. You are a gift to this earth but men are too. You need them just as much as they need you and you are not superior.
There are times when you should be offended by a man’s so-called compliments. If a man compliments any body part that you would never allow him to touch then you should be offended and put him in his place. Otherwise, understand that you are not a victim and the men of this world are not out to hurt you with their words, even if they are you have to allow it for it to happen.
If a man says ‘Hey Sweetie’ just smile and say, “Hello”. If he says, “Hey, Baby,” just smile and say, “Hey.”
If a man says ‘You’re a cutie’ just say “Thank you.”
Share some love. You don’t have to go any further than that. You can even choose to ignore him but don’t go so far as to be a bitter bitch by wearing a tee shirt like the one mentioned above. The words on it say one thing but what it really says is- I am not happy with myself and I do not feel safe in this world.
If you were happy on the inside, every word uttered to you would be a sincere compliment. If you felt safe you would be secure enough to accept a man’s attempt at affection.
Ask yourself why you don’t feel safe. Ask yourself if your worst case scenario, the thing you feared most from a man, were to come true, could you survive it?
You don’t have to feel unsafe anymore. Breathe. Smile. It won’t hurt. You can survive anything and flourish no matter what.
Accept the compliments before they run out.
I used to get frustrated when I saw that women were endeared by idiotic nicknames like sweetie and baby, but now I just laugh. The problem is tat they’re demeaning, these men aren’t trying to break the ice, they’re trying to catcall me and mock me on an open street. They don’t try to stop me, they don’t say hello, they think that by calling me baby I’ll…what? If I stop and talk to them do they even have a plan after that point? A majority of the time. Men aren’t planning anything past “hey sweetie” because they don’t want to actually get to know you, if they did, they might ask for your fucking name. As it is, this is just another way for men to keep your identity out of the equation. Not to mention the fact that being called sweetheart by my boss is not a compliment. Get with the program.
You said it Stephanie! Whoever wrote this might have good intentions when they say it, but the majority of men are just saying “hey baby” then looking me up and down inappropriately. By not trying to learn my name, or even remember it, it is demeaning. I’m just seen as another pretty female. Are men not offended when people forget their name or remember it incorrectly? How is that different? And if it’s so normal for a guy to tell a girl to smile, why don’t guys tell other guys to smile? They do it to us cause they like the authority of telling us what to do. If I’m in a bad mood, had a bad day, just not in the mood, I don’t need to smile for some strangers pleasure. You have no idea what I’ve gone through and have no right to assume some little comment from you is going to make it all better.
I am APPALLED that you consider yourself an advocate for women yet write articles such as this. Women are NOT put on this earth solely to pleasure men. Your article reeks of how women should just be submissive and accept catcalls from men because we don’t want to “hurt their feelings.” That basically sums up what you’re trying to say. What about our feelings? As a 19 year old woman, when a 40 year old man calls me “baby” or “sexy” I find it absolutely sickening. Even if a young man my age tries to approach me and call me “honey” I find it demeaning. “Accept the compliments before they run out” Really?! As if women NEED to hear these things from strange men in order to feel validated. I am so sick of how society sees STREET HARASSMENT as something women should appreciate. I am so sick of how women are deemed “bitches” because we ignore some man hollering at us about how good we look just because they think that it will get them laid. I hope you reconsider your thoughts on this topic because if not, I fear what kind of viewpoints you’re putting in young womens heads that you claim you help. Open your eyes and see how society treats women for what it is.
Almost all men who is on social networks . Had treated me like craps , called me names called me beautiful sweetheart in messages later on this person will ask me for sex but whenever I said no and rather wait and get to know each other at least date at least 6 or 7 months before sex but then they get upset and turned around called me horrible names bitch , ugly , fats… just being mean to all because I said no ..
So basically you are saying that when women are addressed disrespectfully and treated like a child, they should suck it up and be thankful? Are you a man pretending to be a woman? I think so. because this is an idiotic article that is harmful to women.
Respect is due to a dog. If some strange man calls your mom “baby” in front of your dad, or a woman calls your dad “Honey” in front of your mom… that’s ok? Okayyyyyyy.