MySavvySisters.Com posted a poll that asked its readers to answer the question: Which is your biggest fear?
Of the women who responded:
23% answered – Being viewed as a failure
23% answered – The death of a loved one
15% answered – Death
15% answered – Never Being Loved
15% answered – Becoming homeless
1% answered- Going to hell
Analysis– What does this poll say about what threatens My Savvy Sisters?
My Savvy Sisters aren’t afraid of going to hell. Maybe that’s because we have more to do than sit around and think about what is going to happen in an after life that we do not even know exists.
My Savvy Sisters recognize their inner potential and are having a difficult time grasping the concept that somehow they may not realize it. What my sisters don’t understand is, the only thing that will hold you back from realizing your full potential is your fear of not being able to do it.
This is why I went through with The Rebuild Your Life Project. I wanted to show you that no matter what happens, you can rebuild. It doesn’t matter how much you lose, you can dust yourself off and try again.
Moreover, it seems that not only are My Savvy Sisters afraid of not meeting their full potential but they are also afraid of others recognizing it and judging them for it. This is all too common in women who make goals simply to appease others.
You don’t have to live like this, sis. Your goals should be for your own benefit and your own pleasure. Whether or not you achieve is not a basis to determine your life worth. Have fun trying and failing your way through life. Give it your best shot and be surprised when you win because being a superwoman was really your goal in the first place. Your desire is to do the impossible, or at least try anyway and laugh while you’re trying it because it really IS fun to try.
I am astonished to report that My Savvy Sisters fear death just as much as they fear never being loved and becoming homeless. This means never being loved would be the same fate as dieing or being an outcast in society. I can understand that rationale but it doesn’t have to be so.
We place far too much emphasis on romantic love in this society. I’m sure it’s wonderful and it’s a life expectancy but really it is not a necessity. We can not continue to measure our life worth by our ability to partner with someone and remain in a relationship with them. No relationship is permanent. No relationship is stable. Everything changes eventually and when we allow ourselves the freedom to change and grow and even to leave if the relationship does not suit our growth, it is only THEN that we are truly living out our potential.
We think we do not have love because we have never been married or we have yet to feel that tingly soul mate feeling but the reality is, we do experience love each and every day in so many forms it would be an insult not to recognize them. But we don’t care. We are so busy trying to live out someone else’s expectation for our lives that we forget to be happy. But we don’t have to continue to live like that.
If for some reason, you don’t experience romantic love in this decade, be okay with that. What other experiences can you have? Try to have as many as you can and write about them, savoring them for as long as you can.
Comparing the fear of death to the fear of never being loved is amazing to me. With death, we fear it because we do not know what will happen next. Not experiencing romantic love is different. We KNOW that we can hop from one adventure to the next if we choose to, collecting souvenirs, awards and even lovers along the way. Who says the ultimate love experience has to have a ring attached to it? It doesn’t. Have a good time. Listen to your bliss and dive into it.
For My Savvy Sisters: What do you think of these poll results? What were some of your fears from earlier in your life and how did you overcome them?