Some people have desires that many would never understand or readily admit. They enjoy having sex with more than one person at a time or they become aroused by watching others have sex. These are perfectly normal desires; whatever excites you is your business, as long as you do it without harming others.
If you have thoughts of adding a 3rd person into your sexual escapades you may want to follow this guide to ensure that all parties get exactly what they are hoping for.
How To Prepare For Your Threesome
To gauge whether or not your partner is interested in having a threesome with you, you should try asking casually. While you’re at home watching television, simply ask your partner if he would ever want to have sex with (insert random woman on television). If he’s super respectful he’ll probably say No, but if he knows that you are kinky he may be honest and ask why you are asking that. Tell him that you’ve thought about what it would be like to kiss her and wondered if that would make him upset to see that.
He’ll probably have a huge boner by this time so be sure to reach over and give it a tug, just to let him know you’re serious. The conversation will go on from there depending on your personality styles. If you are both mature and serious minded, you might discuss the ramifications of going through with a threesome. If you are both young, silly and adventurous you’ll probably discuss all the positions you’ll try out together. Either way, it’s out in the open and you can discuss. Being secure with your relationship status and your true desire will help this stage tremendously.
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Decide if you want someone to have a one-time experience with or an on-going relationship. Decide which type of relationship you want. Do you want someone to be your girlfriend or a friends with benefits deal? Do you want a girlfriend but he just wants sex? Iron it out and be honest. You must both be on the same page about this or it will not work.
How To Find A Partner For Your Threesome
You know you have that one freaky friend that is open to anything sexually. Has your boyfriend ever hinted that he thinks she is cute? Do you feel at all threatened by her? These are things you need to think about and talk over with him. Would you be more comfortable meeting someone new?
You can meet someone new by joining a Bi-sexual meet-up group in your area or taking a new class or route to work. Any person you meet has the potential to be the one, focus on making a new friend first.
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Some couples opt to find a partner for their threesome fantasy by using online dating sites like OKCupid, Tagged or Craigslist. If you choose this route use a pretty picture of yourself and reach out to women to get to know them but tell them you have a partner up front so they will know what they are getting into. Reach out in a friendly way and ask them questions about themselves. Arrange for a meet up when you feel comfortable and choose a quiet place where you can talk. As soon as you see the person you’ll know if you are attracted but there needs to be an element of trust and friendship established as well if this is going to work. Have fun. The BIG NIGHT does not have to be planned out during your first meeting.
Setting Up Your Threesome
Introduce your new friend to your partner and see what sparks fly between them. If they laugh easily together that means they are comfortable. If you catch them flirting, that’s even better. If there is instant chemistry between the three of you, you may not have to plan at all. In order to make things even more exciting, spend time together doing an activity you all enjoy. Once the situations feels like a camaraderie, no further words will need to be spoken. Things will align on their own.
It might be best to have a night where you and your new friend spend time together alone. If the attraction is still sparking, it is your chance to become a little physical with light touches to the lower back, fingertips on the thigh and even a firm body press during the hug goodnight.
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This will make your actual threesome even hotter because you will become comfortable with each other before your partner makes their appearance. The rest is really up to you as to where, how and who does what. Just have fun and understand that this is a gift for all of you.
Real Threesome stories
Once I set up a threesome with my live-in boyfriend and my co-worker. I knew from the moment I met her that I wanted her but she took a while to come around because she was stuck up. But after she got to know me, I found that she and I became really close. I told her my feeling for her but she said she wasn’t really attracted to me. We remained friends and one day she told me she was leaving town. My boyfriend and I invited her over for one last dinner and that is when it happened. She sensed that we were in the mood and she decided to play Director. She told us what to do and we did it, and then she joined in with us. It was a night we will never forget and today she and I are still close friends. ~K.M.
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One day I was reading an erotic story online and my boyfriend caught me. He told me to share what I was reading so I did. I read it to him. When I got to the part about the two friends kissing he gave me a look but didn’t say anything. A year or so later, he told me he had a friend who thought I was cute but I didn’t think she was cute. One night we were all hanging out at his apartment and we all broke our coin jars and went to cash them in so we could buy liquor. We bought a big bottle and took shot after shot. Before I knew it she was kissing me, I was undressing her and we were all tangled in bed together. It never happened again but I won’t forget that because it was my first time. ~B.R.
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So this guy writes me on OkCupid and he’s handsome so I reply. He tells me he has a girlfriend who likes women and tells me to check out their pictures. I did and I thought she was beautiful. I told him and he asked me if I would like to meet. He lived in a city near mine so I asked him to come meet me at a bar during the daytime. He brought her and we all sat and had drinks while the sun was out. When I saw her in person I was amazed, she was very cute and he was funny. We ended up getting along very well. Fast forward only one week later-haha-we are at their apartment and watching a movie when he pulls me close and kisses me, right in front of her. She stands up and kisses me too. It was absolutely freaking great. It’s been 2 years and I still am friends with them. They call me their girlfriend and I don’t mind. They treat me well and I visit them maybe once every two weeks. We spend time together and then sleep together and I can confide in them too. It turned out to be great for us all. ~M.P.
My fiance and I have been living together for 11 years. For the past 6 years, I’ve been searching on websites and apps for a female to bring into our bed, with no luck. A few months ago, we bumped into a girl I used to work with and the three of us wound up in bed. Although she was very attractive…in bed, she was more like a dead fish. This experience left me feeling extremely disappointed, more so for my fiance. I was in a polygamous relationship, in the past. I’ve also had plenty of threesomes with my boyfriend (at the time) and different girlfriends of mine. I was more so excited for my fiance to have this experience, for his first time, with me. (Besides the fact that I love watching him get turned on by other females.) I can’t understand why it was so much easier to find another female and have threesomes before…I rarely had to search, if ever. It took almost 6 years to finally find a willing female this time, I can’t do another 6 years of searching. Any suggestions? My fiance isn’t quite ready for a swinger’s club. Where else do I look, without appearing like a creepy unicorn hunter, or what else do I do?
Let it go.
The Best ‘Threesome’ is MMF. Having two Nude men touching you is the FINEST sex of all.