It’s sometimes seems like a never ending roller coaster.
You bounce from desiring a boyfriend, to wanting an education. Then you decide you want a career and then a family and then a bigger home and then a better body and then a better job and then a better husband and then a better life. A woman could repeat this cycle many times and feel that something may be wrong with her when there isn’t.
Why can’t a woman ever be satisfied with the life she has? Well, the answer is two-fold. On one hand it is simply untrue that a woman can not be satisfied with her life yet I believe she reaches that point later in life.
Until then her waning and unquenchable desires are a result of the human yearning of desiring more than change, desiring new experiences. It is not that she is incapable of being content, it is more that she is curious about herself and the world and she wants to play in it as much as she can.
There is nothing wrong with that. Don’t try to shame her into sitting down and pretending to have ‘made it’.
If this reminds you of yourself you have permission to be flighty, be flaky, change your mind and explore until your heart’s content. You will ALWAYS have a desire for something new, that is what life is about, tasting the fullness of different experiences.
One day you will wake up and find that your present experience brings you so much joy that you don’t want to let it go. This is when you will rest in the beauty of the life you have created, that is, until life decides it has other plans for you and moves you right along on its own.
Nothing is permanent. Lead your life by following your desires, enjoy the temporary moments of bliss and then allow life to lead you sometimes.
You never get it wrong. You are always making the right choices. This is not a test. Life is not a trial run for something else. You are allowed to do what you want to do and live how you want to live.
So if this is you and you’re ready- take flight.
That’s nice in your utopia. However, in the real world, following most of these rules, you will never keep a man. All men are disposable according to this mentality. If men did whatever THEY wanted, you all would be disposable and crying fowl. “Where are all the good men”? Really? Sad part is, a lot of women live like this but are STILL miserable, with or without a man. They go from man to man, can’t keep a good one if he was staring her in the face, probably because she emotionally abused him with her nonsense, and she winds up a lonely cat lady. Very sad. Nothing is for free. Not even happiness. Sometimes it’s a give and take. Many women today just want to take. Don’t believe me? Look around you.
Found this..thought it may be helpful so the ladies understand rational perspective.
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There are women in today’s world that no matter how hard you try, they just won’t be happy. They will always find something wrong in their lives. Today it might you, or something that you do or don’t do. Tomorrow it might be their job. The day after, it might be something having to do with her family. The point here is – there are some women who are unhappy with themselves, and they project this unhappiness on everything and everyone around them … especially you (the one who loves her the most). Sometimes the level of unhappiness varies according to their hormone level – their “time of the month”. Sometimes the unhappiness is constant. Other times it is not constant but intermittent. It all depends on the individual woman, and there is no way to predict any of this when you are first getting to know her.
My friend, Greg – his wife, Tiffany is a good example of a woman who is never happy. She constantly berates Greg, always tells him what is wrong with him, or what he is doing wrong. She seldom awards him any praise. She hates his friends and family (discussed previously). She bounces from job to job – hardly ever keeping one single job for more than six months. She started working on a particular degree at a local university – then dropped out after one year, and changed course altogether by going to dental hygiene school. In short, her life is always turning on a dime – she changes what she’s doing frequently, and never follows through on any one thing. Every time she changes course, she is convinced that this new course of action will improve her life, and that she will be happy … but after some period of time, she begins to doubt this, and then changes course yet again. To make matters worse, she fights with my friend, Greg, and has even physically thrown punches at him … which culminated with her knocking one of his front teeth out several years ago.
The woman described above I believe is a rather extreme case – I’ve never known anyone quite her equivalent. She absolutely will never be happy with herself, and she therefore will perpetually make my friend, Greg, as unhappy as is possible. [According to Greg, her saving grace with him is that they have great sex … plus he is a very Christian man, and does not believe in divorce.] Greg’s relationship with Tiffany did not start out this way – but slowly, gradually she started to show her true colors … actually I think it took around a year or two for everything I describe to surface entirely.
Wow,so article that gives justication to lie and give another a false life so YOU can find a safe place to run back to in between finding your new experiences.Narcissistic sociopath at its finest. Because it’s all about you right, oh please sign me up for life with you so then after I have grown older and should be proud of a life NOW I KNOW that the person I devoted my life to is not what she “ever” said she was. Girl “all abord! You’ve earned a first class luxury stateroom for eternity..now you pull your bull shit on caption SATIN, I’M SURE HE WILL accommodate you. Lol
Confirms what has been hypothesized through observation and deduction.
Incredibly liberating for the man.
Thanks!