Kelly Rowland’s recently released single, ‘Dirty Laundry’ is catching the attention of music lovers due to its confession that Rowland, a founding member of Destiny’s Child, was envious of Beyonce and engaged in an abusive relationship during the course of her singing career.
Here are the lyrics to Dirty Laundry:
While my sister was on stage, killing it like a motherf-cker
I was enraged, feeling it like a motherf-cker
Bird in a cage, you would never know what I was dealing with
Went out separate ways, but I was happy she was killing it
Bittersweet, she was up, I was down
No lie, I feel good for her, but what do I do now?
Forget the records
Off the record, I was going through some bullshit
Post-survivor, she on fire, who wanna hear my bullshit?
Meanwhile, this nigga putting his hands on me
I swear y’all don’t know the half of this industry
Now tell me why this type of song attracts women? I’ll tell you. We have gotten used to moaning and groaning about the pains of life. We somehow feel that by sharing our sob stories, we have some type of strength. There seems to be a magic connection between women who share abuse stories yet wailing women are out of style.
It’s not about covering up your past or wanting to appear perfect. A song is a celebration of a slice of your life and those you listen to constantly are the flags you fly over your life to indicate what kind of life you’ve had. Take this smart advice for women who write sad love songs, STOP it. You are writing your life story when you click play. Yes, we all go through a period of adjustment through rocky toads as we develop into the women we are proud of, but the times to celebrate and create milestone lyrics are not those moments when we were so down that we become the dirt.
The time to record and cement our experiences in history are those moments when we realize that we are okay, life is turning out fine and there are happy surprises along our journey. Don’t seek to connect with other women over sob stories, seek out those women who are celebrating reaching milestones and goals in life.
Take your “Dirty Laundry’ and clean it with forgiveness and forward movement. Move on and write another song that you’ll want to sing for the rest of your life.
All my love,
Te-Erika
